Della Wren<p>We&#39;re going for a balance between the head and the heart. </p><p>I talk a lot about the mind because I started there. That was my process. I got control over the mind first and that allowed me to manage the emotions and then shift my behavior. I ended up with a balance of the head and heart, I just focused on the mind to start with.</p><p>For some of you, you&#39;re heart-centered. You&#39;ve dropped out of the mind and into the heart. There&#39;s nothing wrong with that, the strategy works that way too. </p><p>The thing that I continue to offer is that you need to come back to balance the mind as well. You need to do both. You can&#39;t just drop one or the other and forget about it. To fully heal you need to balance all three things - thoughts, feelings, and behavior. If you leave any one of those out for any reason balance will be difficult to find.</p><p>My strategy wouldn&#39;t have worked for me either if I had stuffed all my emotions and not dealt with the heart-centered things. I ultimately did need to do both. </p><p>The question of which to do first is akin to the chicken and egg analogy. It really doesn&#39;t matter which comes first as long as you go back and manage the others as well. </p><p>Fear is why the scale gets tipped in one direction or the other. Truth be told, I was terrified of my emotions. That&#39;s why I started with the mind. But what I learned later on was that the mind could help me manage the emotions. Introducing some logic allowed me to deal with the thing I was scared of. The reverse is also true. </p><p>If you&#39;re scared of the mind because you&#39;re worried about the ego taking over and you don&#39;t like what the mind offers you, then you can use the heart to help you balance that. </p><p>Balance means the mind and heart agree with each other. They play nice. When it all comes down to it, the mind figures out how to make what the heart wants happen. The mind does that willingly without offering objection or fear. The mind never tries to trigger the heart and the heart doesn&#39;t trigger the mind. Both function in tune with each other equally and willingly. Both are on the same page reading from the same program and following the same plan. How you do that, which one you take on first, is entirely up to you. </p><p>I&#39;m here to help my heart-centered folks get the mind on board and my thought-centered folks bring the heart along for the ride. Whichever way around it works for you is fine with me. </p><p>I have strategies and I have a plan. Private coaching packages with scholarships available are listed on my website. Just want a quick tune-up with a specific issue? One hour sessions are available. </p><p>Message me for info or hit up my website. <a href="https://dellawren.com" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">dellawren.com</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p>Love to all. </p><p>Della </p><p><a href="https://c.im/tags/heartcentered" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>heartcentered</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/thoughtcentered" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>thoughtcentered</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/selfmasterycoach" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>selfmasterycoach</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/selfmastery" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>selfmastery</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/focus" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>focus</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/focuscoach" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>focuscoach</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/healing" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>healing</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/journey" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>journey</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/balance" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>balance</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/mindbodyspirit" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindbodyspirit</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/spirituality" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>spirituality</span></a></p>