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Jen<p>What if I told you that even Andrew Tate could benefit from feminism?</p><p>Not satire. Not sarcasm. Just 5 real reasons why dismantling toxic masculinity helps everyone — including the loudest critics.</p><p>Read the essay. Reflect. Share.</p><p><a href="https://medium.com/@kaso.creates/5-reasons-why-even-andrew-tate-would-benefit-from-feminism-87b9b295ac29" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">medium.com/@kaso.creates/5-rea</span><span class="invisible">sons-why-even-andrew-tate-would-benefit-from-feminism-87b9b295ac29</span></a></p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Feminism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Feminism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/ToxicMasculinity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ToxicMasculinity</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/GenderEquality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GenderEquality</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/AndrewTate" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AndrewTate</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/EmotionalIntelligence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>EmotionalIntelligence</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/PatriarchyHurtsEveryone" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PatriarchyHurtsEveryone</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/MensMentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>MensMentalHealth</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/IntersectionalFeminism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>IntersectionalFeminism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Sociology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Sociology</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/GenderStudies" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GenderStudies</span></a></p>
Trump Watch 👀<p>MAGA’s attack on empathy is a thinly veiled defense of misogyny and toxic masculinity. When Elon Musk and the Christian right call empathy “suicidal,” they’re protecting their fragile power and patriarchal control. <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23MAGA" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MAGA</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Misogyny" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Misogyny</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23ToxicMasculinity" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#ToxicMasculinity</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Empathy" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Empathy</a> <a href="https://www.salon.com/2025/04/11/magas-on-empathy-exposes-misogynist-fears/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.salon.com/2025/04/11/m...</a><br><br><a href="https://www.salon.com/2025/04/11/magas-on-empathy-exposes-misogynist-fears/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Elon Musk and the Christian ri...</a></p>
Emily van Lidth de Jeude<p>CBC had a call-in show about toxic masculinity today. I didn't hear it, but my partner told me about it, and it reminded me of this piece I wrote quite a while ago, now. I still really believe this:<br><a href="https://rickshawunschooling.blogspot.com/2020/11/how-our-social-system-perpetuates.html" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">rickshawunschooling.blogspot.c</span><span class="invisible">om/2020/11/how-our-social-system-perpetuates.html</span></a><br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/toxicmasculinity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>toxicmasculinity</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/mentalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mentalhealth</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/feminism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>feminism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/bullying" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bullying</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/socialchange" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>socialchange</span></a></p>
William Lindsey :toad:<p>"To them, Trump embodies the characteristics of an Old Testament God: angry, vengeful, and demanding unquestioning loyalty. Follow the rules without exception or face some serious smiting. These are the characteristics that many men have chosen to shape their parenting, some to the point of emotional abuse."</p><p><a href="https://toad.social/tags/Trump" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trump</span></a> <a href="https://toad.social/tags/tariffs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>tariffs</span></a> <a href="https://toad.social/tags/ToxicMasculinity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ToxicMasculinity</span></a> <a href="https://toad.social/tags/destruction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>destruction</span></a> <br>/6</p>
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Kareem Abdul-Jabbar says he ponders why people are so obsessed with Trump that their loyalty is more a compulsive fetish than a healthy choice. His answer"

"There are many answers to that question, and I’ve explored them all. But one of the main ones is the pathological need for a judgmental father figure."

#Trump #tariffs #ToxicMasculinity #destruction
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kareem.substack.com/p/trump-ta

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar · Trump Tariffs Tank Economy & 4 Weird Signs You’re Getting OlderBy Kareem Abdul-Jabbar
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"White House Press Secretary Karoline Leavitt mused that 'boys will be boys!' when asked about the increasingly ugly feud between Elon Musk and Trump trade adviser Peter Navarro at Tuesday’s briefing. …

'These are obviously two individuals who have very different views on trade, and on tariffs. Boys will be boys!'"

~ Isaac Schorr

#Trump #tariffs #ToxicMasculinity #destruction
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mediaite.com/news/boys-will-be

Mediaite · ‘Boys Will Be Boys!’ Karoline Leavitt Promises to Let Elon Musk and Peter Navarro Carry on Ugl ...By Isaac Schorr
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"Batya Ungar-Sargon reckons Trump’s economic policy is going to fix the 'crisis of masculinity'. On Sunday, Ungar-Sargon told Fox News that the US had 'shipped jobs that gave men who work with their hands for a living, and rely on brawn and physicality, off to other countries'" …

~ Arwa Mahdawi

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theguardian.com/commentisfree/

The Guardian · Trump’s very beautiful tariffs will fix America, masculinity and the family. It said so on Fox NewsBy Arwa Mahdawi

A number of commentators today are noting the attempt of the Trump regime and its epigones to spin the tariff madness (and destruction) as boys being boys, a favorite theme of Republicans, since one can hardly blame boys for behaving like boys. Bless their hearts, behaving badly is just what men do after all, Republicans love to inform us.

On this topic, see Media Matters on Fox News' spin of the tariffs as "manly."

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mediamatters.org/five/fox-news

Media Matters for AmericaFox news chyron: "Trump's manly tariffs"
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Rising from the Ashes: A Love Letter to Self-Respect (4of4)

He wasn’t just unprepared for a relationship; he was fundamentally incapable, yet he allowed me to believe otherwise, leading me down a path paved with false hope.

The past now feels like a raw wound, a landscape scarred with the sharp edges of what could have been. But the dawn has finally broken, casting a harsh light on the truth. The lesson, etched in the deepest part of me, is this: never again will I dim my own vibrant light for someone who prefers the cold, artificial glow of a screen to the warmth of my touch. Never again will I offer my heart to someone who cannot be fully present, unequivocally honest, and wholly mine.

Lesson: Don’t date dismissive avoidants. They’re not worth the emotional toll.

As Evan Hurst notes, Vera Papisova spent a year dating alt-right men to find out what makes them tick (this is so difficult to figure out?) and ended up comculding that on the whole they're “erratic, violent and incapable of managing their emotions." But, get this, "we" are somehow responsible that they're that way, since "we" have pushed them into isolation.

Himpathy much?

#MAGA #Trump #AltRight #masculinity #himpathy #ToxicMasculinity

wonkette.com/p/overrun-by-fera

Wonkette · OVERRUN BY FERAL CATS! TABS: Monday, April 7, 2025By Marcie Jones

As someone taking the opposite path from the below image:

I navigated it most of my life by constantly and obsessively managing my threat presence. It felt like a constant battle with the toxicity of other men. I had my guard up not because there was some threat of women assaulting me, but because watching their guard go up around me felt like being stabbed in the gut, like a lifeline getting cut off.

It took trauma and ego death for me to really start building an actual community for myself. I had bits and pieces I had gathered carefully and with great effort, but all that toxicity kept me from knowing what to do with it.

Now, even later, transition has been a massive weight lifted. (For those in the closet or eggs cracking: people clocking you doesn't make much difference here, if they put up that anti-creep guard around you they're a bitch anyways)

I feel like I can breathe. Connection is so much more casually there. I can see it in people's eyes, I can be in a crowd of strangers and I feel drastically less alone.

Unfortunately, those years of malnourished pain don't just disappear. I still have all of those threat management patterns, I feel like I'm scarred and sometimes even bleeding from that. There's a caution in me, afraid that people will misinterpret, that this wonderful person I want to make friends with will abruptly shut down on me and then disappear from my life if I relax too much, if I'm too open... I still feel like I'm emotionally walking on tip toes...

#lgbt#lgbtqia#trans

"Protecting girls" from trans people:

"Hall “screamed and shouted” at the player “you’re a fucking boy and shouldn’t be playing in a girls side...”.

"After the abused player left the field in tears, her father approached Hall informing him he could not speak that way to his daughter, to which Hall reaffirmed his belief that the abused player was a boy and should not be playing in a girls team."

telegraph.co.uk/rugby-union/20

The Telegraph · Dad banned for screaming ‘you’re a boy’ at U12 girl after ‘transgender rumours’By Ben Coles