@dansup I've been slowly converting family and friends over to #Signal for years now. Here's how usually I do that these days. When a conversation gets into some rather intimate topic - say talk on emotions, or psychology, or other highly private details - then I set a boundary, saying "I'd be willing to discuss this topic further, but only in a more private app like Signal." So I leave them an "out": I'm willing to stay on, say, WhatsApp, *but the conversation has to stay more shallow*.
I also run an #XMPP server (Prosody), but I've had very limited success in getting people to join. Frankly, XMPP is *only* for intrepid geeks at this time, who are willing to put up with several papercuts in usability. Apps like WhatsApp and Signal have "raised the bar" *a lot*, and apps like #Conversations and #Gajim have their work cut out for them to try to catch up to people's sky-high expectations - they've been spoiled.
*A ton more testing and bug-fixing is still needed to iron out quirks that the different XMPP clients have, in talking to each other.*
This goes especially for #iOS or #iPadOS offerings for XMPP.
@sbb @dansup People should be educated. They should not be choosing #Signal over #XMPP. And those of us who know better should promote XMPP and not Signal.
Have you tried Snikket? It's a rebranded Prosody + existing apps, made to easily set up small private servers and easily onboard users.
What about Quicksy (Android and iOS), which used phone numbers for easy onboarding?
Also, Monocles Chat and Cheogram extend Conversations with loads of features and UI improvements.